The conjugal act has a unique dignity above and beyond almost any other human act. It is not just a natural action. It can also be sacred. This, of course, is not to be understood in some esoteric far eastern spiritualist sense. Rather, it is that which completes the bond of matrimony as an indissoluble union. It is also an image of the mystical union of the soul (the beloved) with Jesus Christ (the Lover), a union brought about through the reception of the Most Holy Eucharist at Mass. Concerning sex, many fall into the error that as long as two people are married “anything goes”. This is most certainly not the case. In the sexual union of man and woman there is supposed to be a complete and total giving on one’s self to the other in both body and soul. Unfortunately, there are many (who quite strongly believe they are not doing this) that abuse this marital act by engaging in sexual actions that turn their partner into an object for their own self-gratification. When we commit liturgical abuses (whether the one committing them knows them to be abuses or not) we are turning Christ into an object for our own gratification in the very act at which we should be entering into deepest union with Him.